Went to have my teeth cleaned and checked yesterday. Been going to the same dentist for twelve years, so I've gotten to be somewhat friendly with my hygienist.
She is amazing. A force to be reckoned with. Very handy and kind with a dental tool.
Over the years, she and I have been through a lot together. For example, I recently got married, she recently got divorced.
She's has been seeing a new guy for about a year now. The first blush of love has worn off, and they have hit a rough patch.
Yesterday as she scraped at my teeth and gums with a metal pointy object, she caught me up on the latest.
"I'm not even staying over at his place anymore, I've been back at my apartment," she said, angrily.
"I do things for him! I know what he needs and I give it to him. Why can't he do the same for me!" she huffed. : scrape, scrape :
"He just makes me so MAD" she said, while jabbing the beejeezus out of my gums.
When she gave me a moment to rinse the blood out of my mouth, I said, "you know, my husband has told me that often enough men really appreciate it if you'll just *tell* them what you need. Give him a little guidance and I bet he'll be happy to provide what you want. He just wants to make you happy."
"But why doesn’t he just *know*?!?" she wailed.
"Because he doesn't. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need," I said, gently.
She thought about what I said, muttering aloud to herself with one foot on my forehead and both hands shoved in my face, jabbing at my teeth unmercifully.
"Maybe you are right, maybe I need to be willing to say what I need more. Maybe I'll go over to his place tonight to watch the hockey game and we can talk."
For some reason, people like to use me for therapy.
Did I mention?
My hygienist is 60 years old.
Never, NEVER too late!